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For those of you who have not spent much time in the magical world of the Gene Keys, I can hear you wondering why such a simple word as allow is one of our Wizardly Words this Week. Why would we need to define allow? It’s pretty basic right?

Simple But Not Easy

The verb/action allow is simple, and yet not necessarily easy in the lexicon of the Gene Keys.

Allow is part of a trinity of words/concepts/embodied actions: “Allow, Accept, Embrace.” And Allow, Accept, Embrace is part of a further trinity of words, “Pause, Pivot, Merge” that is part of the Art of Contemplation (as found in the book of that name).

• In Richard Rudd’s description of these techniques, Pausing is a form of mental contemplation and can result in Insight, and Merging is a form of physical contemplation and can result in Epiphany.
• Pivoting is in the middle and is a form of emotional contemplation that can result in Breakthrough.
• Part of the Pivoting contemplation is the trio of stages that lead to Breakthrough: Allow, Accept and Embrace.
• I’m talking about THIS Allow here in this article. Lizzie will talk about Accept next week and I’ll finish with Embrace in two weeks.

The second of the three confirmations that occurs as we practice contemplation is called Breakthrough. Just as our first confirmation comes as a mental insight, the second is experienced as an emotional breakthrough. As the word signifies, this confirmation comes unexpectedly and powerfully as a transformation of some aspect of our emotional behavior. Often the first stage of this breakthrough is simply to see our emotional shadow pattern objectively for the first time. This may come as a shock as we realize how much of a victim we have been of that particular emotional belief. Seeing the pattern clearly then leads to the gradual dissolution of the problem as our awareness continues to chip away at that pattern. Eventually our contemplative practice completely transforms the old negative shadow and it no longer haunts us or causes us the pain it used to. 
Richard Rudd

Allow your feelings to be felt. Specifically allow the painful feelings.

That’s the meaning of allow in the Gene Keys and here in this article.

Allow says:  feel that uncomfortable feeling … you don’t have to like it or even accept it yet. Just give it some space to be.

Until you allow the feeling in, you are in denial of the pain and it will fester inside your psyche.
Richard Rudd

I don’t know about anyone else, but I was taught at a very young age not to allow my own feelings… I was taught to distrust them. I am pretty sure my parents meant no harm to me, they were simply raising me in the way they were raised and as their time and culture guided them, but harm was done.  I have lived my life desperately trying to hide from my own painful emotions and reaping the consequences of the festering wounds Richard speaks of in the quote above. After being on this Gene Keys journey for a while I am now so much more comfortable with allowing painful feelings and letting them move through my body. I feel much lighter and find equilibrium relatively quickly after an emotional storm (whether it is a sprinkle or a torrent).

I Was Born With It

At this moment in my year long journey of Devoted on the Golden Path with Hayley Curtis we are in the Core Wound sphere and mine is Gene Key 22. As I re-read what I just wrote above I realize that no matter what family I was born into or what time, this pattern of hiding from and mistrusting my feelings would have developed in my childhood because it is the Core Wound I came into this life with. The shadow of Gene Key 22 dishonors and distrusts its emotional life. I carry this wound deep within me and for the whole.

Play With It

What a great word for me to play with at this time while I’m in my core wound – Allow!  What a wonderful lesson for me to learn as I unravel my own tangled thread of my emotional life.

As Richard says about allowing our feelings:

The beauty of allowing is that it is so generous. It just opens the door a little, as much as we are comfortable. There is no pressure from allowing. We just take a peek at the pattern. We can even close the door again if it seems too painful. Allowing is a process in which we gradually open the door wider over a period of time.

I love the idea of bringing play into this contemplation of the word allow. This art journal page encompasses the “peeking” at the emotion with some humor! I’m also going to do a little rhyming word play to help me remember to trust my emotions in this first stage of the process of Breakthrough. My inner child likes these simple and funny phrases.

When I Allow, I am in the here and now.

I vow to Allow.

I’m not holier than thou, I simply Allow.

I trust I can Allow, somehow.

I bow to the great Allow.

As Hayley says, contemplation is about playful pondering. I know from experience that feeling painful feelings doesn’t seem very playful, but the rhymes above help to ease us into that more playful place that knows that once we’ve Allowed ourselves to be present with our emotions they can then flow and the pain will ease. 

I promise that the next two articles in the Wizardly Words on Wednesdays will give you more help to trust this emotional contemplation process that begins with Allowing. In the meantime, feel free to read up about it in the book, The Art of Contemplation, page 39, by Richard Rudd. I also highly recommend listening to the Heart of Peace meditation in the (free) Triple Flame app (link at bottom of page). It actually talks you through allowing!